Age never mattered less when it comes to dating. As long as they are adults, everyone is free to look for their happiness without any judgment. When it comes to dating over 50, there are certain things that people need to relearn if they didn’t date anyone for years. Dating has changed significantly in comparison to 20 years ago. Some phrases or behaviors didn’t really exist back then so several useful lessons will be very helpful for every person planning to approach dating over 50.
Online Dating is Great
A few decades ago, the thought of online dating didn’t really exist. It seemed impossible! Even long-distance relationships with someone that you met in person were real problems. People would break up before moving to another city because they thought it wouldn’t work out without being close. Many things changed since then! Online dating became very popular and successful. There are countless happy stories of online couples that motivate everyone to try it out. If you are 50 or older, it doesn’t mean that you can’t find a soulmate over the internet. A wide range of online dating sites offer filters for people looking for someone near their age. You just need to enter your information and preferences; these sites will show you a list of people that match your criteria. They are all looking for someone to have a good time with! Leave the prejudice in the past; meeting people online in 2020 is completely okay and safer than ever!
Keeping the Balance Between Modern and Traditional Dating
Although online dating can be very exciting and refreshing, there should be a balance between the dating ways that you know and dating ways that you are learning now. When you meet someone on a dating site, don’t let it stay virtual for too long but don’t rush to meet IRL too soon either. As soon as you realize that you get along with the person you are chatting to very well, find out what he/she thinks about meeting in person. If you share similar interests and have the same feelings, there shouldn’t be any problem. You can plan when to meet and what to do when you get together. Even if circumstances don’t allow you to travel too soon, hope and plans for that event will keep you motivated. Once you finally meet, don’t try hard to be “modern”. Simply act the way you feel. If you don’t want to rush with anything and you want to stay in separate rooms at first, that’s okay. Just share your wishes with your partner and soon you will learn more about one another. Mixing modern and traditional dating is great for people over 50. You can exclude everything you didn’t like back in the days (like too much formality) and get the best out of today’s dating ways, such as online dating, texting, and frequent traveling.
New Terms and Behaviors
“Ghosting” is a practice of stopping to communicate with someone without officially cutting it off. When you “ghost” someone, you basically just stop talking to them without further explanation. People who are over 50 are not really used to this practice. A couple of decades ago, when you would stop talking to someone, you would be fair enough to explain why. Nowadays, it seems to be easier to start ignoring and let the relationship fade away by itself. Don’t be surprised if that happens to you. You are not the problem; someone just isn’t brave enough to tell you why they don’t want to go towards a relationship with you. Perhaps you remind them of someone from the past or they are not ready to start something serious. In any case, don’t overthink or overanalyze it. “Breadcrumbing” is another relatively new term that you should get familiar with. It signifies a person that sends occasional messages to someone just to keep them interested, without getting committed. In the event that happens to you, don’t be surprised or feel bad; simply cut it off!
Not Giving Up
If you have a couple of bad dates or you meet people online that end up disappointing you, don’t give up. Every person you talk to has a different story, personality traits, and things that you like or dislike. You may feel awkward around 10 people and then feel comfortable around 1 and know that’s what you’ve been looking for. Giving up too soon will leave you with negative feelings and thoughts and may affect you in many ways. You could think that you will never love someone again; that you are not worthy enough; that dating is no longer for you and so on… All of that will change if you stay open to relationships and give chances to new people. One of them will make you see how valuable you are and you will be happy for not giving up when everything seemed hopeless.
Leaving the Past Behind
A new relationship opens an opportunity to be the best version of yourself and share it with your significant one. Good and bad things from your past made you the person you are today and someone is going to love you for it. Take everything that happened to you before as lessons that you needed to learn. Don’t let your past mess with your present and future; especially in a negative way. Even if you had bad experiences with ex-partners, don’t allow them to ruin your new relationship. Also, don’t be afraid of your past or try to hide it. Be completely honest about it and share it with the person you care about. They will understand you better and appreciate you even more. Then, start the new chapter of your life without looking back.